There is one thing that’s not a secret about many women – our quick emotional attachment.

While I think this can be a disability on our part, I’ve recently noticed there are more and more men quickly becoming as emotionally attached, especially when it comes to romance.

This attachment is common in the new breed of men called metrosexuals – the straight guy who takes on other female qualities such as enjoying pedicures, trendy styles and chick flicks.

During the last few months I’ve noticed this trait in more men. Being emotionally attached isn’t a bad thing, but if most men don’t like women who are that way, think how women feel when a man is quickly emotionally attached.

The problem I have with emotionally attached men is that most get hurt whether they are the one attached or being attached to.

One of my male friends suffers from this “disability.” He gets emotionally attached very quickly.

He’ll meet a girl and then a week later tell me all about how it’s love and they are meant to be together. Then he gets hit with this alarming reality check, because the girl isn’t giving him the same reaction. Probably because of shock.

I think some women, like myself, are suspicious of this new sudden attachment, as if it’s a ploy for alternative motives.

Given most males have sly, guarded, yet charming ways, this is shocking to most women. Is this attachment a new side of men or has it been squatting like a toad in the bottom of men’s cold feet, hiding from women? Have men wanted to show this side of themselves? Is it the new breed of metrosexual males enlightening other men?

Everyone has encountered an emotionally attached person or have been one themselves, not just in dating but friendships. This can be stressful for both parties.

I know I tend to push people – especially prospective boyfriends – away more quickly if I notice they are getting emotionally attached quickly. Haven’t people heard of “don’t put all your eggs in one basket?”

How many ladies like men who get attached too quickly and are needy? Some, but not me.

I told my guy friend he gets too emotionally attached too quickly, and he acted like I had just launched his heart out into a hungry pack of wolves.

It’s OK to feel connected in the beginning when getting to know someone, but you should usually keep those feelings to yourself. You wouldn’t want to scare that person off.

There is plenty of time in a new relationship to express those feelings.

I have been disabled by quick emotional attachment and learned my lesson the hard way. It’s not the way to go.

Developing any type of relationship is hard, and hopefully people are going to get attached at one point.

Some feelings may come faster for others than yourself, but take time and make sure they move at a similar pace.

These attached men are very sensitive and react seriously to what women say.

People’s feelings are always at risk when it comes to relationships.

However, if we safeguard ourselves and become aware of traits that may cause extra stress, and possibly pain, maybe we won’t risk ourselves as much.

Put yourself at ease, NIU.

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