As Valentine’s Day approaches, some are excited to spend a romantic day with their significant other. Others find their sense of dread increasing as Feb. 14 draws near. But it’s important to know that Valentine’s Day, while a fine holiday, doesn’t need to be placed on this big pedestal with flying cherubs shooting arrows at people like it’s “The Hunger Games.” 

We build up Valentine’s Day to be this big, epic spectacle. Romance films are released in the middle of February, sappy songs flood the airwaves and the floral and chocolate industries froth at the mouth for increased business. This build-up can drive people insane when it’s all completely unnecessary.

If you’re in a relationship, you really should act like it’s Valentine’s Day year-round. Don’t just keep romantic gestures limited to holidays, birthdays and anniversaries. When you’re in a committed relationship, your significant other deserves to be treated in the best manner possible. 

Single people tend to view Valentine’s Day as a gloomy one but it shouldn’t be that way. Valentine’s Day is just another day and you don’t need to spend the day sulking about it. First of all, it’s okay to be single. I have been riding in the singles only car for a long time now and it’s not a terrible existence. Yes, it can be hard sometimes but there are plenty of productive things you can do on Valentine’s Day instead of moping.

You can hang out with friends, have a quiet night in or just do something for yourself. You can take pride in what you have accomplished over the past year in your professional, academic or personal life. And if you’re truly unhappy with your romantic life, you can think about the steps you can take to pursue a meaningful relationship.

Doing something nice for your romantic partner on Valentine’s Day is like making New Year’s resolutions. It’s a nice sentiment but it’s a practice that should be observed all year. Because if you need a holiday to be an excuse to give someone flowers or cook them dinner, are you worthy of a relationship?