A.J. Madonia

Guest Columnist

Editor’s Note: A.J. is a licensed clinical social worker who is volunteering his time to assist the students and staff of NIU. He is also an NIU alumnus of the class of 1998.

February 14 will forever be etched in the mind, heart and soul of every member of the Northern Illinois University family.

Coping with this senseless act of violence is a very personal process. You may be in a completely different place emotionally than others around you. That is OK.

There is no right way to heal and no set list of what one needs to do in order to repair one’s mind, body and spirit.

Throughout the days and months ahead, some of us may seek closeness, others may need some time alone to identify and process their thoughts and emotions regarding this tragedy.

You know your needs better than anyone else. Trust your heart. If you feel a need or tug to talk, then talk, if you find comfort in listening, then listen.

When you feel that your thoughts and feelings may be rising to the surface, give yourself permission to let them out.

If you are inclined to use a talent to express yourself, then use it. Sing, dance, paint, run or make music to help bring your whole self into a healthy balance instead of dwelling too much on negative feelings.

In the days following Feb. 14, Francis Ryan wrote music and lyrics to “Huskie Tears,” a personal ballad of sorrow and hope. In distributing his work on CD and Myspace.com/frannyRyan, he shared thoughts of optimism in the wake of unspeakable misfortune.

Tributes and memorials continue to grow around campus. These forms of art provide opportunities for expression and healthy outlets for processing difficult emotion.

Hope and unity are themes that inspire the thousands who pass the King Memorial Commons. Togetherness is exemplified in front of Cole Hall with the pack of six NIU Huskies standing strong.

In the days and months to come, let us continue this culture of caring, inspiring and supporting each other.

Most importantly, remember that there are many people who are ready to listen and help you through any difficult times that may come down the road.

Please make note and call NIU’s Counseling and Community Support Network at 815-753-1206 if you ever feel a need to reach outside your current support network. Counselors are always available or on-call.