A million dollars in the bank, success to a very high degree in one’s chosen field or that perfect person in your life sitting across the table, making you think that all you need in the world is right there?

Which one of the above factors (remember the end justifies the means) do you think would satisfy us, enhance our self-esteem and make us feel complete?

Well, a good percentage of people would swear they are above the fallibilities listed above. So, changing our mode of thought & let us consider the prevalent philosophy that we should be happy with what we have. Well, then, nobody would achieve anything, for I believe it is the hunger for more that makes people do better. So is it our desire to build a blessed collection of humans who are non-achievers? Not a feasible option.

So how about the assuming the roles of cynics & those holier-than-thou figures who have the easiest jobs in the world in displaying their intelligence by finding a fault with everything? Here’s an example of an online pro-choice cynic whose views I was lucky enough to read. According to that person, the morning-after pill still killed a life. A quick review of the pill’s working entails that it kills “da sperm dudes” before they reach the egg.

So, according to his or her logic, if Brenda’s mom stopped Brenda from dating Scott ’cause they were having sex, then Brenda’s mom was actually killing a life. Well, you would agree with me that being a professional whiner doesn’t seem fun.

Thus, having discounted the above, I have a view on the satisfaction psychosis that I would like to share.

The human psyche, I believe, derives its biggest kick or satisfaction from having control. Flip the coin and we see that the thought of having no control of one’s life is the Viagra for strong depression and low self-esteem.

Starting at a primary level, which guy wouldn’t love to have the following included in his marriage vows: “Do you promise to cook breakfast and dinner, shut up when I want you to, not put on weight even if I do, do my laundry and always remember that all that’s yours is mine and mine is mine?”

In the case of women, they would, I think, retain the cooking and shutting up part (I presume that they wouldn’t, or shouldn’t, trust a guy with laundry and don’t generally mind a bit of weight on their loved one) as well as ” … get a nose clip to stop snoring, surprise me with gifts on a constant basis, not look at other women, also I am complicated, so deal with it …” (The list would be slightly longer.) The scenario is kind of extreme, but it gets the point through.

Gravitating to higher levels, we seek promotions at work so that we have control over more people, thus controlling the immediate situation around us. I guess I am relating control with power here. Hence, we have presidents who are ready to undergo humiliation for every mistake they commit in order to have control over decisions that affect millions.

Everything ranging from relationships to situations is a bit more exciting when we have a little less control. It’s only as control decreases that humans tend to hit the panic button.

So could we just try controlling ourselves and not situations or people? I do not have a solution and not having it doesn’t perturb me.

I just think that this is a road trip where the journey is more fun than the destination.