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Getting tested: sign of trust, honesty

By James Casey | September 10, 2013

If you’re starting an intimate relationship with somebody, it is important to discuss sexually transmitted infections as early as possible.There’s an obvious problem with this conversation: It’s a bit awkward to bring up and can be a mood killer....

It is possible to like everyone

By Hayley Devitt | February 24, 2013

You can consciously choose to like someone. It is possible; I have seen it happen. Let me be more specific: Maybe you will not honestly like someone in the very core of your being, but you can tolerate them enough to learn to “play nicely.” Some of...

Online dating ruins real romance

By AJ Edwards | February 4, 2013

Have you ever logged into your email account and found you have received several messages about meeting someone online? Or have you turned on the TV to see some picture-perfect couple boasting about how they found each other through some website and it...

Top 10 relationship breakers

By Erica Wood-Bedi | November 19, 2012

10. Opposite-sex friendships: A lot of people think it’s OK to have a close friend of a different sex. The problem is the uncertainty it creates in your partner’s mind. If you care for that person, then he or she should be your first concern. Why...

Ten things I failed at and why that’s a good thing

By Erica Wood-Bedi | November 4, 2012

10. Music: If you ever heard me play the flute, you would know I was not destined to be a musician. In ninth grade I had to make the choice between the student newspaper and the band. Clearly, I was destined to be a writer, not a musician. Failing at...

Bottom line: Find the love of your life

By Leah Spagnoli | March 4, 2012

I’ve always been told to marry my one and only. I’m not by any means old enough to be married, but how will I find the person that makes me happiest? To be honest, I feel like both men and women are constantly on the lookout for someone they might...

Point, Counterpoint: The etiquette of going out and being in a relationship

By Parker Happ and Colin Remes | February 22, 2012

Parker Happ: Some of my married friends shared that their wedding bands, instead of preventing pursuit from females, actually attracts them. These men face unwanted social pressures everyday. Let’s say a married man decides to party with the bros for...

Campus spots prove perfect for date nights

By Hailey Kurth | November 9, 2011

Looking for a place to keep warm with your boo on those cold nights? There are a number of places on campus to take a date when you're looking for a night of romance. Here are some key locales to keep in mind when you're planning your perfect date night:...

Rushed relationships usually don’t work out

By Alyssa Pracz | November 8, 2011

You see it every day: Boy meets girl. They start to like each other and date, and eventually they get married, living happily ever after. Notice the emphasis on the word eventually; as in don't propose to someone after a few months of dating. I'm sure...

Age shouldn’t matter in relationships

By Martha Lueck | November 1, 2011

A major issue that sets college apart from high school is age difference in relationships. Sure, in high school, many students think it was cute to see a freshman dating a senior. But it was also weird, not to mention risky when it came to how adults...

Does texting make communicating less personal? Yes.

By Colin Remes | October 19, 2011

Everyone can agree that our technological advancements have made our lives significantly easier. However, texting has increasingly made communication less personal. Because of this, messages are often misinterpreted and oftentimes unknowingly hurt or offend people.

Back in the day--before cell phones became attached to our hips, people had no other choice but to call on a house phone if they wanted to get a hold of someone. Nowadays, I often hear my friends say, "ehh...I don't feel like calling I'll just text them," when trying to get a hold of someone. Yes, it is more efficient at times to shoot someone a text if you have a quick inquiry, but we shouldn't make texting so much of a habit that it's awkward to call someone. I'm sure people have been in a situation before where they're arguing with someone through texts because they want to avoid the confrontation in person. This creates a problem because people sometimes read the message differently from the way you communicated it.

There is more to communication than just words. People communicate through facial expressions, their tone of voice and body language. Something you might be sending to a person might be sarcasm or a joke, but they might take it as that you're trying to be mean. Remember: All they see are words and nothing else. According to an article on About.com titled "Types of Nonverbal Communication", "While nonverbal communication and behavior can vary dramatically between cultures, the facial expressions for happiness, sadness, anger and fear are similar throughout the world." Sending a text that reads, "I'm fine," may make it hard for the recipient to tell if you really are fine or are upset without seeing your facial expression or hearing your tone of voice. "Depending on the topic of conversation it can be hard to do it through texting because people can take it the wrong way," said sophomore special education major Lauren Wright.

Using texting as a main source of communication also affects people socially. I know you're thinking, "Well of course it does, I text my friends on the weekend to see what's going on." However, if people get too used to texting all the time and rarely use a phone or have face-to-face conversation, it impacts the way they interact with people. It may sound silly but communicating everyday with people allows you to practice your communication skills and develop confidence in other aspects, such as an interview, a speech, or even just being able to hold a conversation.

I'm not trying to tell anyone to stop texting or that texting is bad. Let's be real, you're probably texting someone right now, just as I'm about to. The main point is to not let texting control the way you communicate to people. Still make the effort to call your parents just to hear their voice or meet up with an old friend to catch up in person rather than just the occasional "How are ya?" text.

Internet dating has more potential risks than benefits

By Alyssa Pracz | March 22, 2011

Just because you can now shop, order food, work and talk to your friends online does not mean you should also start using the Internet for dating. Internet dating is overrated for a lot of reasons. It is not a safe way of meeting people. Also, most people...