If you’ve been cheated on, you’ve probably heard some plea in an attempt to get you back. Don’t fall for this trick, and don’t take back your ex – it is always a bad idea.

“Babe, please take me back. I promise I’ll never cheat on you again.” 

It’s never good to get back with your ex if you’ve been cheated on; if you do, your relationship may never be the same. Cheating drastically changes the course of a relationship and fosters doubt and a lack of trust. 

Being on the receiving end of infidelity can be traumatic and emotionally traumatizing. Some of the consequences of infidelity that can occur are suicidal ideations and loss of appetite, libido and concentration, according to the National Library of Medicine.

No person should ever make you feel that terrible, especially if they love you. Choosing to stay with the person who cheated on you shows a lack of self-respect because you deserve more than a person who can’t stay faithful to you.

Usually, people who get back with their ex do so because they believe their partner deserves a second chance or they could move on and trust their partner again, according to Business Insider.

Betty La France, a professor in communications, believes it depends on your type and length of the relationship, if you can get back together.  

“You’ve put all your time, you’ve invested all your resources in this person in this relationship,” La France said. “You know, you’re throwing money at the wheel, you know, the gamble of life. And then one day, you find out that this person is not who you thought they were.”

La France also states it’s hard for relationships to survive after infidelity. 

“Statistically, however, we know that surviving sexual infidelity is very, very difficult,” La France said. “But there are lots of things that go into it. And part of, part of the care and compassion of life is as you continue a relationship, you know, a relationship of one year is very different than a relationship of 31 years with three, three kids with a house and all that business.”

Taking your ex back is, simply, not a good decision. If you do, you are cheating yourself of a better life and setting yourself up for the possibility of more heartbreak.

Kalani Soto, a junior sociology major, believes it’s not good for people to stay with a cheating partner.  

“In a relationship, like, you could love someone or whatever, but it’s all about, like, respect and loyalty,” Soto said. “And if you don’t have that you don’t actually love them.”

Soto also noted a reason people may take back their ex is because they are scared or just comfortable in their situation.  

“I feel like they’re scared of change,” Soto said. “They’re comfortable with them (their partner). They think they love them, and they think that that’s well. They’re just probably scared just to leave.”

A relationship is a bond and connection that you have with someone. Cheating on them forever breaks that bond and trust. Your partner cheating on you is a sign they don’t love you anymore.

You deserve so much better than a cheater, and you will find love again. So, for the love of all things, don’t take back your ex.